We got that particular child involved in a beloved sport which helped, but to be honest, I think coming out of a shy-shell just takes time. Remember “life is long.” I was so incredibly, horribly shy growing up and I have come to realize that that’s an ok thing to be. We live in a world filled with so many people who love to be in the spotlight that we think that’s normal, when really sometimes that quiet, more restrained child may be happier and more well-adjusted to life.
I wrote more about shyness back here.
What age would you recommend kids start extracurricular activities? Did you find certain ones were better than others?
I’d say wait as long as possible!! 🙂 Extracurricular activities have the ability to take over your life and pale in importance-comparison to helping children be kind and loving and to serve each other. There are no extracurricular classes for that. Every child is so incredibly different and needs such different motivators on this so Dave and I have been all over the map on our stance on extracurricular things.
Have you ever had to deal with jealousy with your daughters? Such as she is prettier,smarter,thinner,more popular… I want to prevent that from happening with my girls.
We haven’t dealt with too much blatant jealousy yet, but I’m sure we will at some point. We do have four girls, after all. There are certainly little back-biting remarks and huffy comments made here and there, which points to jealousy for sure. Dave and I are all for prevention on that topic as well. We try really hard to find particular talents of each girl and praise them for them. (That’s where the “talents-on-fingers” sure comes in handy:) I make a point of stealing them away from school and taking them each out to lunch all on their own once in a while to connect with them and lavish them with love (more on that back here). I think that if girls know they are individually unique, and have uniquely wonderful talents they will have the confidence that will repel jealousy.
Something pulled my heary strings in this post- the part about fitting in the most important things in first- and your “improving scripture study” mention on your to-do list. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately!! You said more on that later- so just wondering if you have tips on making what’s most important happen first- before everything else creeps in.
Our new ward was challenged at the beginning of school to read the whole Book of Mormon by Christmas. Dave and I took on the challenge and because of that we have both been cramming in that book every spare minute we have. I can’t believe what a difference it makes to have the scriptures be a bigger part of my day. When I wrote that on that post (the “life is long” one) I totally had a plan to read the scriptures first thing every morning…which hasn’t worked. Every morning is so different and it seems like I’m always rushing off somewhere. But I have been trying to write down a note about what I read that week in my journal each day though and that helps me internalize things a lot more. My sister has been great about this (inspired by a little discussion we had at Bear Lake last summer) and wrote some awesome scripture ideas on her blog over here.
I have not commented before, but do you and your husband have any BIG disagreements on raising the children, and if so what are the ‘issues’ usually about?
It is surprising how “on-the-same-page” Dave and I are with our parenting. Maybe it’s because we were both raised in families with nine kids. Who knows? We do disagree on a few things but not big ones. I want our kids to earn more for sports camps and he wants to provide them opportunities if we can. He’s more strict and doesn’t put up with excuses while I’m a total push-over most of the time and I’m SO grateful for that. I’m more laid-back and not such a worrier which he’s sometimes grateful for, but sometimes it drives him nuts too 🙂
Max lives in a sea of young sister/their friends, in a recent survey that SHOCKED me, it said 87% of boys have seen pornography in some ways by the age of 11, and 6 universities were surveyed and 100% said they had seen in it in some form. How do you protect Max, and is it a huge concern?
So scary. I don’t think you can ever be too careful with kids and all the stuff on the Internet these days, and I feel like we should always do better than we are doing. I wrote more about this in answer to a question back here, and also a little tiny bit here.
***Oh my word, my inbox labeled “blog questions” (I move all the questions I get on this blog in that handy little “folder”) is so seriously overloaded. I’m going to start trying to answer the more simple questions in the comments section where they are asked to alleviate that, so be sure to check there if you have a specific question about something in a particular post. (For example, I just answered the Japanese curry question in the last post lots of people asked 🙂
…and friends who make it not so hard to wear glasses.