…and they made me so happy.
Just look at that pure delight in those cute faces.
…and the sister-love.
They were from Claire’s last soccer game of the season.
…the one I ached to be at but Dave and I had another commitment.
(Man alive what I would give sometimes to duplicate myself so I can be at everything.)
But you know what?
I always have to remind myself that it’s OK (even better than OK) not to be there for some things.
These pictures with those glowing faces are proof of that.
There’s no way Elle would even be at that game let alone take those darling pictures had we not needed her to drive and had I been there hovering with my own camera around my neck.
I’ve written a lot about “being there” for kids over the years. I wrote a whole post about it back HERE.
But “Being there” is not really about physically being there. I’m not really the kind of “there” I want to be with my child if I’m checking emails or texting back and forth about who will drive which carpool and occasionally looking up to say, “uh huh” even if I am sitting right next to them on the edge of the soccer field.
Being “there” is, as Iris Krasnow says, “an emotional and spiritual shift, of succumbing to Being Where You Are When You Are, and Being There as much as possible.”
That quote has rung through my mother-brain my whole mothering career. But now that I don’t have toddlers hanging on my legs any more, I think I’ll make my own little mental addendum: “but remember your children will grow and flourish in a different way than they ever could if you let them fly.”
Max has given me proof of that, along with a hundred other things these kids have learned to do well alone (obviously Elle’s “mothering trip” to the soccer game is certainly not the first time or last that will happen).
But these pictures are a good little reminder.
Just a little bit 🙂