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the after-party…and a video of the whole deal

by Shawni
I wish I had taken a sweeping photo of all the people we love so much filling up our whole yard to celebrate the grand union of our son and his new wife.  
There is just something about the feeling in the air being surrounded by so many people you love.  Who love you.  Who love your son.  And meeting so many people who adore his new wife.  All in the beauty of a dark December evening in the desert filled with twinkling lights.  This is all I have for now:
Hoping the photographer captured it more.  (One of my “learned-this-time-to-remember-next-time” notes is to make sure to have my brother bring his drone…it would have been so fun to see that crowd from above!)  
At some moments it felt so shoulder-to-shoulder I could hardly get through the crowd to help with something or other, or to manage the music/lanterns find Max and Abby to introduce to someone, etc. 
And the dancing was so fun.  Just how Max and Abby wanted it to be.

But back up…first things first, and in my girls’ opinion, that means Chick Fil A.

Oh yeah.

Loved sneaking away for a few to be with these guys before the celebration party.

I took this picture for my friends who helped with the iron-burn-hole-through-the-dress-that-morning incident:

That dress looks great, right?
You’d never guess what had happened that morning:  Mid way through getting ready my good friend took on the steaming/ironing responsibilities.  Elle’s silk dress had some creases so we were trying to use a “cool iron” as directed on the tag and all was well until my friend looked up at me in sheer horror holding the iron above a good-sized hole that she had burned right through the front ruffle of the dress.  Oh my heavens we both just looked at each other, eyes as big as saucers, jaws on the floor, and the world around us stopped for a minute.  She felt SO awful and I assured her I would have done the exact same thing…it did say “cool iron,” I think our iron is faulty.  We both didn’t know whether to laugh or cry, but luckily I remembered my neighbor, who is also a seamstress, had offered to help with any altering we might need.  I called her in a panic and she was there within two minutes to assess the damage.  She ran home and brought the dress back in what seemed like two more minutes with a perfect seam in that ruffle making it look practically as good as new.  Oh man we were all pretty pleased as punch about that little remedy I tell you!
After the temple…and Chick Fil A too, we headed back to help with the finishing touches for the party.
Love those girls of mine, and we were all delighted when the guests of honor showed up.

Here are the little girls testing out the dance floor:

And then it was time.
People gathering and talk, talk, talking, food being eaten, lanterns set off, beauty all around.
I really don’t have very many pictures, just the ones gathered from a bunch of air dropped cell phones, but here’s the cutting of the “cake”…
…which wasn’t really a “cake”, it was this tower of the most delicious cookies my dear friend made:

We’re not much of cake fans, cookies are our thing so it was very appropriate.
Then we sent off some laterns into that December night sky:
Then mother/son dance: 

Father/Daughter dance:

I love this picture of Max cutting in:

….and then onto a pretty fun dance party that you’ll see on the video…

…and the sparkler send-off.

But really, I don’t know why I’m trying to tell the story with these iPhone pictures when I have this video I love.

We may not have the wedding pictures yet, but we DO have the video.  And I adore it.  I love how it gives such a great overview of the whole day.  Lindsey did such a great job!  There is nothing like a video to give the whole feeling of an event.  Fill up your whole screen and turn it up to watch.

Max and Abby from Lindsey Kesler on Vimeo.
Lindsey is so talented…check her out on that link above.  (LOVE YOU LINDSEY!)

Dave and I looked at each other the other night and wondered again how in the world that happened:  our son is married!  And it’s a beautiful thing.


The Mickelsens January 16, 2019 - 3:34 pm

Wow! That video just radiated love. Love from Max and Abby. Love for parents. Love for siblings. It made my excited for what to come with my own children's future and what we can have. Thank you for sharing these special family moments with us!

Lauren January 16, 2019 - 4:12 pm

This video is just SO amazing! So much happiness and love!

marie January 16, 2019 - 4:29 pm

Thank you for sharing. The video just shines.

ellen January 16, 2019 - 6:05 pm

The video is amazing!!

Shannon January 16, 2019 - 6:36 pm

That video is a treasure! It radiates such love ❤️

Denise G. January 16, 2019 - 7:13 pm

That video was so sweet! The love and happiness just radiates from both of them.

Marc and Tricia January 16, 2019 - 9:05 pm

My daughter just came over and saw this post as I was reading it and said, "Well, now they have 81 toes":). That made me smile. Congratulations!!

Shawni January 18, 2019 - 11:32 pm

You're right! I didn't even think about that! 🙂

Living Life in the Lowcountry January 16, 2019 - 9:44 pm

So sweet! Wishing them much happiness!

JenHunsaker January 16, 2019 - 10:13 pm

I love Elle's dress! Where did she get it? I can't see a hole anywhere!

Shawni January 18, 2019 - 11:32 pm

It's from Nordstrom, and yes, can you believe how well my friend fixed that up? So grateful!

Lea January 16, 2019 - 10:21 pm

Such joy and love in abundance! Congratulations!! (Did you ever post how/when they met? I may have missed it.)

Shawni January 18, 2019 - 11:34 pm

I told a little bit over here: http://www.71toes.com/2018/10/a-boy-meets-girl.html but Grace made a video interviewing them and I totally forgot to post that. She needs to upload it to something that I can share and then I'll have to put it on here.

Amanda January 16, 2019 - 10:59 pm

I am just in awe. This was the most beautiful video. Thank you so much for allowing all of us to experience a little piece of you joy. I hope Abby always jumps into his arms just like that. Congratulations to your whole family. BEST DAY EVER!

Unknown January 16, 2019 - 11:42 pm

That was an absolutely beautiful video that so captured the love of Max and Abby as well as everyone there to celebrate them. Dont listen to any negativity – the pictures and their joy speak for themselves. All the best and a lifetime of happiness to this beautiful young couple.

Shari January 17, 2019 - 12:56 am

I think I have followed your blog from the beginning and it's been so much fun to watch Max (and all of your kids) grow up. Thank you for sharing this amazing wedding video with us. I have a son the same age and this makes me excited for his future wedding rather than dreading "losing him." This video just radiates love all the way through. What a blessing of family and friends!

JB2 January 17, 2019 - 2:41 am

Beautiful people, beautiful ceremony and beautiful home! Just curious, how many people was your backyard able to accomodate for this comfortably? Planning an event with a backyard reception and trying to estimate if it will work! Thank you for sharing!

Shawni January 18, 2019 - 11:36 pm

I think every yard is so different so the numbers are probably so different accordingly, and I'm not a good judge of numbers but I'm guessing we probably had 350 people come and go back there.

Shauna January 17, 2019 - 3:48 pm

I have loved the posts of Max's wedding. I am just curious why they chose to be married in Max's hometown instead of the Bride's? Are they doing an open house or anything in the Bride's hometown?

Shawni January 18, 2019 - 11:37 pm

That was Max & Abby's decision. I think they just wanted the warmer weather mostly. They were going to do an open house in Texas but decided to just simplify and do it all here.

Unknown January 17, 2019 - 5:47 pm

So happy, so peppy, so much love… Great video! Great job, Lindsey!

Lisa January 17, 2019 - 7:30 pm

Amazingly beautiful! So much happiness and love radiating everywhere!!!

Dini January 17, 2019 - 7:43 pm


Capturing Joy with Kristen Duke January 17, 2019 - 8:45 pm

that was so FUN! I love a good wedding video! Love her dresses, too!

Julie Robison January 18, 2019 - 12:23 am

Crying! So beautiful! Just got my second son married on the 21st!

kms January 18, 2019 - 1:26 am

I love the cookies instead of a cake. The frosting must melt easily in the desert. People can control portions easier with cookies. I’ve had so many pieces of dry wedding cake. I like she went without a veil. Didn’t your sister have a veil emergency for her wedding? Abby had to shave changed clothing a few times that day and it would just get in the way and a waste of time to take off. Her dress is beautiful. I’m liking you didn’t put all the girls in the same exact dress. Their ages are far apart on both sides and hard to find the same style that looks okay and age appropriate on everyone. The group photos looked nice and you can wear the dress again and everyone was able to look their best.

Shawni January 18, 2019 - 11:38 pm

Thank you kms! It was fun to see it all come together that day!

Marisilla January 18, 2019 - 8:43 am

I have read your blog for years and I am very happy for you and your family. A beautiful simple wedding, I wish more people will concentrate in the meaning and not so much on the other things. The cake was fantastic! and the wedding video, amazing.

Tracy January 18, 2019 - 10:34 pm

So beautiful! Congratulations to the happy couple.

Shawni January 18, 2019 - 11:41 pm

Thank you for all these sweet comments. It was such a fun day and fun to be able to share it all 🙂

Stacie January 19, 2019 - 1:34 am

I saw elle’s Dress is from
Nordstrom but I can’t find it. Any way you can share a link or the name of it? I’m looking for a modest dance dress for my daughter. This would be so cute.

Kkelly January 22, 2019 - 6:17 am

That was the sweetest wedding video, she did an amazing job! And your new daughter in law is so much fun! What a beautiful wedding day!

Lysha March 22, 2019 - 3:34 am

Did Max and Abby have a traditional temple wedding?


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