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by Shawni

Throughout all this pandemic this home of ours has been filled with life. The numbers have gone from settling into having two kids home last school year, oh so quiet, to having everyone home for a few different stints.

When we realized how quickly our days all together as a family were going to expire (Elle and Carson were leaving for Florida and Grace would be leaving for her mission for a year and a half), Max and Abby decided to come quarantine with us for a couple weeks (everyone is working online anyway). And the life and togetherness just bulged from this home of ours.

That table below behind those dancing girls was filled up to the brim every night at dinnertime and dinner clean up was made fun (these guys ALWAYS had a dance to do):

(some sunset oogling also, up there on the right)

That time was filled with things like celebrating Carson’s acceptance to podiatry school (before Max and Abby arrived):

Some serious game nights:

Lab coat arrivals…pretty exciting stuff if you ask me!:

Then Max and Abby came, and that first night they whipped us up their chickpea/cauliflower tacos that we all love:

From there it was pretty much a party.

They got here in time for Elle’s birthday:

Outdoor games in the heat:

Night swimming:

And day swimming:

Some father/son ping pong:

Oh, and more swimming:)

Some pickleball too:

One night we took just our married couples out on a double date to this cool place:

My two boys:

Abby’s cool pictures:

It’s still hard for me to believe I have two married couples!

Dave’s good selfies:

…and then out to dinner:


One last card night:

Then the first wave of goodbyes with M&A leaving:

One more night with Elle and Carson…which was spent this way by these girls:

And our last day with swimming and….you’d never guess how we chose to spend the rest of our couple last hours: making hot pads.

We are so weird:) But I’ll have to post the finished product some time…Elle and Car have some SWEET hot pads to show off in Florida!

Packing every last belonging into their car:

And then they were OFF.

On their drive off to a new adventure and a new life in Miami.

Crazy business.

SO grateful we could all be together so much in the midst of everything going on in the world, something to cherish forever for a mama.

And now we’re back down to three:

Gosh, breaking up is hard to do!

And we’re going to have to do it again with Grace before too long (although she will have home MTC instead of leaving us on September 15th…which is strange but we’ve heard great things about).

But break ups make you even more grateful for what you’ve got. And it’s not so bad when everyone is sure heading into some good learning phases!

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Tracy August 28, 2020 - 7:27 am

What precious time with your family. Love the cute little photo bomber in your couples date night picture. 🙂

Julie August 28, 2020 - 11:13 pm

I noticed him too. He made me chuckle:)

Shawni August 31, 2020 - 9:26 pm

Yes he was a pretty cute little addition 🙂

Kris August 28, 2020 - 8:30 am

Totally unrelated but I’d like to publicly apologize to you for any criticism over your kids starting the year a few days late because of trips and camps that conflicted. Having sat through the first week of middle school remote learning with my child they do absolute nothing besides getting to know you stuff and tell you about them. They did not miss anything.

Heidi August 28, 2020 - 6:42 pm

I LOVE this! What a precious time for you all!

Kim August 31, 2020 - 6:37 am

“Having sat through the first week of middle school remote learning with my child they do absolute nothing besides getting to know you stuff and tell you about them”

That’s called building a relationship with your students and attempting to build a unified classroom among students who aren’t physically in the same room. It’s important. The teachers are doing the best they can with what they’ve got. Give them some grace.

Kris August 31, 2020 - 9:54 am

They are not in their class they are in my kitchen. Give me some grace. I am sitting next to him the entire time. It is interesting they are reading the Giver cause the surveillance is no joke.

S August 28, 2020 - 8:34 am

Great you could all be together before the grown kids left for different states/countries. Will be exciting to compare to your next fam photo in 18 months!
Also just out of curiosity, how tall are all your kids/kids in law? Hard to tell when the whole fam is tall!
Thanks 🙂

Maria August 31, 2020 - 9:04 am

True, but anyone who has homeschooled (before the pandemic) will tell you, the homeschool “school day” is about 3 hours long. A school day is double that or more due to time wasted.

Shawni September 1, 2020 - 12:50 pm

Max is 6’7″, Abby is 5″6″, Elle is 6’1″ (and Carson is almost exactly the same), Grace is 5’9″, Claire is 6′ and Lucy is 5″6″.

Niki August 28, 2020 - 12:47 pm

Love that you got to spend that time together before the “bigs” all go their separate ways. Also, where did you get that blue float that Elle is sitting in? Love it.

Shawni September 1, 2020 - 12:52 pm

Dave manufactures pool supplies and I think that’s a prototype they were checking out.

Janan W August 30, 2020 - 4:18 am

There’s just something about a new adventure! Glad you all got that precious time together!

rebecca August 30, 2020 - 8:54 am

Did Carson graduate from BYU? I must have missed that! Congratulations to him.

Shawni September 1, 2020 - 12:53 pm

He still has one class they are letting him do remotely…he’s going to have a full semester!

Shelly Cunningham August 30, 2020 - 5:58 pm

I, too, was curious where you got the floatie that Elle was on in the pool.
And what is that stack of books in the room with the ping pong? Are they like family albums? I’ve been trying to think of how I want to go about creating a family album/photo album of some type, but I’m overwhelmed. Hah!

Shawni September 1, 2020 - 12:55 pm

See above for floatie info. That stack of books are high school yearbooks from through the years. We keep them there because the teenagers like to go through them sometimes and reminisce. I do am trying to figure out family photo albums…trying Blurb and a few others. I wrote about the Blurb ones I made back here:

Liz Wheeler August 31, 2020 - 2:53 pm

Shawni, could you post or tell more about the recipe for those tacos? They look AMAZING! And what sides you had? And the salad you made? You always post the yummiest food!

Shawni August 31, 2020 - 9:23 pm

I think I may have posted about them but I can’t find it so here’s the recipe…Abby introduced it to us and it’s so so good! https://www.twopeasandtheirpod.com/roasted-cauliflower-and-chickpea-tacos/

Shawni August 31, 2020 - 9:25 pm

Oh and the salad is just an arugula salad mix from Trader Joe’s my sister introduced me to that I love.

Tessa August 31, 2020 - 7:08 pm

Your family is amazing!!!! Would love the recipes for the tacos 🌮 too!!! Gracias!!!


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