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energy transformation (part 2)

by Shawni

Ok maybe this is a tad bit of a stretch to connect this story with “energy transformation” but I keep thinking of that concept I wrote about back HERE, and this picture my mom sent us all a little while back reminded me of that same idea:

You see, there’s a famous story in our family. One my mother told us over and over growing up, and one I have told my own children 246 times.

It’s the story of my mother as a junior high schooler, miserable as could be. She was painfully shy and would go home each day and complain to her mother that she had no friends. So that plucky mother of hers, my grandma, gave her the best piece of advice that has now gone down in history: “Linda, you go to school tomorrow and find someone who looks more miserable than you are, and reach out to them. That will cure your loneliness.”

Well, of course my mother balked at that idea…in her teenager eyes there surely couldn’t be anyone more lonely than she was.

But her mother convinced her to at least keep her eye out. And sure enough, at lunch the next day she saw a girl sitting all alone who looked like she might be at least equally as lonely as she was. So she pulled up her bootstraps and got the courage to go talk to her. Which, as you might guess (since this story has become a favorite, it has a happy ending), those two became wonderful friends, and my mother was so grateful for her mother’s encouragement to “transform her energy.” She could have remained sad and lonely, sitting by herself, or she could choose to change that energy to active searching, active befriending.

And when she chose to transform, that is what made all the difference.

So a month or so ago my mom sent that picture up there with this note: “I’m going through a lot of old pics last week, I found this fun picture of maybe 5th grade. I was amazed at how many names immediately popped into my head. And I had to smile while I saw my future friend, (second from the right on the front row) who was the one my mom challenged me to find and befriend at the 7th grade dance. I dearly wish I’d have thought of being her friend sooner!” (Can you spot my mom? She’s the one third in from the left side.)

So I used that picture for our devotional the next morning, and told that story for the 247th time, through teary eyes.

Thank you for your example of reaching outside of yourself always, Mom, and always being willing to transform your energy into goodness. Love you forever.

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Tracy October 14, 2020 - 11:59 am

Love it! And how strange is this – I looked over all those cute faces in the picture before reading your post and two girls stood out to me – your mom and her friend! 🙂

Julie October 14, 2020 - 11:10 pm

I recognised your Mum straight away. I can see so much of you & Charity in your Mum.

A lovely story. x

Teresa October 14, 2020 - 11:17 pm

Wow, before reading the post (and knowing what or who it was about) I looked at those faces and immediately recognized your mom. My second thought was, that she looks so much like Ana – your niece from Hawaii. Incredible!

Megan October 15, 2020 - 9:46 am

I had the same reaction looking at that picture before I read your post, her face looked just like Ana to me! And what a great story to share!

Sherry Bronson October 16, 2020 - 10:17 pm

I picked out your Mom immediately. She looks and smiles the same. It looks like she’s holding hands with the cute girl to her right as well (the fourth girl in the row). I’m sure your Mom was more of a friend to others than she realized. I teach fifth grade in Bountiful, Utah, and I’d like to use this story to teach a “SEL” (social emotional learning) lesson to my students. Everyone needs friends…and lots of them. Getting out of our comfort zone to extend a hand of friendship to someone, can be a small, yet life changing event. The tiny act of friendship from your Mom changed her life, and the life of her new friend…definitely a win-win situation. Thanks for sharing.

KittyLuvr October 17, 2020 - 5:58 am

I always learn something from you blog…usually something passed on from your parents to your family..and this may be my favorite…especially with the isolation everyone is facing now. Thanks for sharing such a powerful story.

SH October 23, 2020 - 8:36 am

I want you to know I have missed you! I hope all is well with you and your family. I want to send my love to you even though we do not know each other personally. I have always looked forward to reading your (nearly daily) posts. You have a calm way of helping others see different perspectives. You’ve caused me to think outside of the well known box and to look for new ways to learn and grow. I have loved having a peek into your kids and family life. You are a champion of mothers and especially the gospel. Just want you to know you are loved and missed here in this little spot of the world. ❤️

Jessica Nelson October 23, 2020 - 12:17 pm

Agreed!!I came to say the same. Shawni has been a bright light among a lot of crazy in the world and in my own home. I’m grateful for her posts and insight. And she’s missed when she doesn’t post.
Shawni – I hope you and your family are well! Love and prayers your way!

Lynn October 23, 2020 - 12:51 pm

I agree as well! I appreciate and enjoy reading your posts and miss them. Wishing you well!

baladuhan October 23, 2020 - 9:39 am

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Azhar Hashmi October 23, 2020 - 12:18 pm Reply
Oliver Levi October 24, 2020 - 4:12 pm

This article is pretty inspiring , th k you so much for sharing


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