Have you ever had a moment that changed your trajectory? A little slice of time where somehow your vantage point changed and the world came into focus because of something someone said or did?
Last weekend my friend brought up a conversation about that. She talked about this story, which includes this Ted Talk:
Maybe you’ve already heard of this “lollipop moment” deal, because when I googled it all kinds of things came up, but it was new to me and I have been thinking about it so much ever since.
I mean, this guy made this huge impact on this girl and he never even realized it. Until one day when she sought him out and told him so.
After my friend shared the concept another friend shared some of her own “lollipop” moments. A moment years ago when someone told her a story about how her [then] future husband changed his trajectory at a pretty pivotal time in his life, (a pretty powerful story), and that story was pivotal in her decision to marry him.
It made me think of a story my Dad told me when I was a teenager. It was the story of Marilyn Hovey, the most beautiful girl in his high school, who was picked as prom queen. She had the opportunity to chose anyone she wanted for the “first dance” and she chose a kid who wasn’t in the popular crowd she was part of. She chose someone who perhaps really needed that boost more than anyone else. And they smiled and danced and maybe she never thought about it again after that night. But my Dad did. It was a powerful example to him of reaching out of our own comfort zones to make other’s know that they matter. And that they belong.
Marilyn could have no idea my dad would be telling her story to his future kids, and that they would be telling it to theirs. It’s been probably sixty years and that story still inspires me to reach out better and with more love.
It also made me think of a girl who wrote Claire the sweetest text after she didn’t make it on the cheer team in junior high. It came in right when Claire needed it most and somehow it impacted not only Claire, but also her mother and we both still think about it all the time years later.
It made me think so much about the things we do that we may never realize can change someone for the better. Little things like standing up for someone or a simple love-filled text that. Sometimes the little things matter much more than the big things. It made me think of the people who have changed my life for the better in small and simple ways.
I love that at the end of the TED talk the guy asks:
“Who in your life has influenced or impacted you in a way that changed your life, your perspective, your career, your health, the way you see the world?”
“Have you let them know?”
I need to do better at that.
Anyway, just a few thoughts for a Tuesday morning.