I keep thinking about the developmental psychology class I took a while back that explored the “Attachment Theory,” the beauty of “being there” as a parent and the miraculous things that does for our children.
It is no cakewalk with all the distractions going on in this world of ours, I can attest to that for sure.
But there are so many little things we can do that really are the big things.
One of which is predictability.
I took notes on this quote and have thought about it a lot ever since my class:
“And when children live in an environment that is relatively responsive and predictable, where there’s a sense of security
and safety, it promotes the development of healthy brain architecture. It promotes the development of a healthy immune system. It promotes the development of healthy cardiovascular function and metabolic regulatory systems, creating a strong foundation for lifelong health and effective development.
“In contrast, when children grow up in an environment of constant, threat, constant burdens, heavy burdens that influence everyday function, the stress system is activated excessively. It produces what we call toxic stress, and that disrupts the development of brain circuits during their critical periods. It disrupts the cardiovascular system. It disrupts the immune system and creates the foundation for a greater risk for a whole host of physical and mental health problems and difficulties and learning.
“It all comes down to a very simple message, which is early experiences literally shape our biology, create either a strong or a weak foundation for all the health, learning, and behavior that follow for a lifetime.”
I love thinking about those systems of predictability, whether they are little things like tucking our child in bed each night with a bedtime story, or a prayer huddle before they leave for school, or that beautiful “welcoming response” when they come into a room.
Simple things make such a difference in mothering.
I adore this painting by Brian Krishesnik:
The closeness of a mother and child.
The beauty of showing a child new things. Of teaching. Of that natural melting of bodies into each other.
Yes, motherhood is a powerful thing.