Teens

Raising teenagers can be fill up our lives right up to the brim with so much joy! But they are also a rollercoaster of a puzzle to figure out. These posts are honest reflections on parenting teens—through faith, mistakes, growth, and the everyday moments that shape connection during the messy, but beautiful teen years.

Because I have raised five teenagers, I’ve had lots of time to ponder teenager questions. And have come back to report my findings.
How to Help Teens Build Self-Confidence
What if your teens have an attitude?
How do you get your teens to actually like you?
Training kids to use technology responsibly
“Moving to the bleachers” –letting our kids forge their own ways

And so many more posts about being in the thick of teenager-hood. The high school dances and fun. Wishing you joy in the journey of figuring out those teenage puzzles! XOXO

  • tips on raising teenagers from “in the arena”

    Teenagers are confusing. And frustrating. And tricky. But they are also pretty dang awesome. Raising teenagers can evoke a wide range of emotions —…

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  • Cousins Make High School Dances Even Better

    Lucy went to another high school dance. And this time around I realized that cousins make high school dances even better. But before we…

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  • tips for Raising teenage boys – A Different Perspective

    I got a question about raising teenage boys clear back when Max turned fifteen (below). It sure made me think. When I came across…

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  • The Importance of Good Men

    I’ve been thinking lately about the importance of good men. I think our world needs them desperately. OF COURSE we need good, strong women…

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  • Lucy’s First Dance! – MORP

    Well, the long awaited and much hand-wrung-over high school dance has come and gone for Lucy. I talked about some of our emotions swirling…

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  • three ways to help teenagers build a positive self-image

    I’ve been thinking a lot about self-confidence lately. Specifically in my own kids. Is every mother out there in this same quandary? Even with…

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  • Lucy’s first date and how I feel about it

    I feel compelled to post about Lucy’s first date and how I feel about it today. Because her second date is tonight, and it’s…

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  • Shawni with Grace and Claire

    how to trust kids to figure out their own paths

    With emergent teenagers, one of my always-biggest questions was how to trust kids to figure out their own paths. Just like my fellow mothers,…

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  • another “powderpuff” season in the books

    It feels weird to look at these pictures now that the whole school year is all wrapped up. And oh boy I have a…

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  • one more prom — the official “last dance”

    What happens when you have a trip with your recently-returned missionary back to see her mission stomping-grounds and your other daughter gets asked to…

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  • PROM (smack dab in the middle of Nationals)

    Welp, this weekend was one for the record books for us around here. And my heart is so jumbled with all that I want…

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  • winter formal for Claire!

    Another dance has come and gone. This one was squished in between the state football finals (where we WON!!! first time in his high…

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  • Senior Year Homecoming Date for Claire

    Well, Claire’s senior year homecoming date came and went. It just feels so strange as a parent to have yet another child hitting milestones…

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  • 3 tips for making teenagers like you

    The responsibility as a parent becomes so tangible when you have teenagers, as their decisions and friends and actions start to mean so much…

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  • love first (a teenager offense)

    Today I want to talk a bit more about loving teenagers. Unconditionally. Loving Teenagers Before Trying to Fix Them I love this painting by…

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  • ministering and LOVE on Valentine’s Day

    In the wake of Valentine’s Day, I’ve been thinking a lot about teaching teenagers to minister. Minister? You might ask. On Valentine’s Day? But…

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  • 10 Ideas for parenting preteens

    Ha! Did that title fool you into thinking that I actually know how to manage roller coasters of emotions? Parenting preteens is a challenge…

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  • Technology tips for teens and families

    The Tech-Wise Family Book Review – Technology Tips for Teens

    Technology is ruining our kids… you may have read my post on this recently! I’ve been pretty worried about how technology is impacting our…

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  • Shawni with high school friends on graduation night

    High School Love and Memories…A Mini Reunion From the Good Old Days

    Even now, having three children who have traversed the halls of our giant-sized high school,  I sometimes find it strange that so many years…

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  • Tips for Training Kids to Use Technology

    5 Tips for Training Kids to Use Technology

    As parents, we are trainers in so many ways. In the beginning, we train our children to talk, walk, eat and smile. It’s crucial…

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  • The Homecoming Dance 2015

    We made our travel plans to Switzerland before I realized it coincided with Homecoming. Then I had a little panic attack. And then I…

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  • Elle and friends at MORP

    MORP and how much fun teenagers are

    In honor of the fact that two of my three teenagers are kicking off their sport seasons this afternoon, I thought I better do…

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  • 5 teenage girls smiling at the camera

    5 Tips for Parenting Teens with Attitude

    Parenting teenagers is tough enough, but when they start to have an attitude, as most teens do, it makes life even harder. After parenting…

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  • Elle as a teenager holding her drivers license in front of her eye with a smile.

    high schoolers

    Sometimes when I look at my children, parenting high schoolers reminds me how quickly they grow up. Time stops. Just for a split second.…

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  • Friday Q & A — teenagers

    I am hoping/praying you will consider devoting a few blog posts to the whole mystery of parenting a teenager.  My oldest is 15 and…

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  • Max, Elle and friends holding up posters to ask people to the high school dance

    on teenagers and the “dance phase”

    I was nervous to have teenagers.All I ever wanted were those cute little newborns and toddlers.  All the stars in my eyes about motherhood…

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  • my eagle project

    Hi, this is Max.  I’m hijacking my mom’s blog today to explain about my Eagle Project that I’m working on right now.  We are…

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  • Shawni with high school friends lined up on a bridge

    high school and a reunion

    With Max as a freshman and Elle hot on his heels, we are getting a lot more exposure to all the high school hoopla…

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  • Max and friends as new teenagers checking into a summer camp

    bitter-sweet {from babies to EFY teenagers}

    I was emotional thinking about babies and teenagers this summer. (What else is new? And really, who wouldn’t when you have babies like this…

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  • how to prepare for the foreign land of teenagers

    I’ve been thinking a lot recently about how to prepare for the foreign land of teenagers. It is a daunting prospect for most parents…

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