My friend posted this quote on Instagram a while back and I’ve thought about it and shared it with so many since then.
It just rings so true in so many ways. From little things like just wrapping our arms around a daughter who has huge tears rolling down her cheeks, not trying to fix those woes (as I have done way too many times), but being there, silently holding space for her to come back when she’s ready, to deeper sorrows too. Friends and loved ones who are filled with anguish that we cannot even comprehend.
Yes, there is sometimes room for fixing and protecting, even sometimes room for avoiding. But most of the time what is needed most is that place-holder. Someone who will listen. Someone who will “mourn with those who mourn.” And stand in that “helpless vigil of pain” and be still.
And love, unconditionally. Because love without judgement or fuss is always the answer.