I love this day of love.
I am a day late and a dollar short for showering love to my family this year. Dave and I went out of town to celebrate both our 50th bdays (his was in the middle of covid) as well as our anniversary long past, so I didn’t get the fluffy stuff done that I usually do in preparation for Valentine’s day.
But I DID get to celebrate that love for my “#1” in abundance leading up to today on our trip. Oh boy. I am the very luckiest that he’s mine and I love him forever and always, (more on that trip some time soon).
But today, this Valentine’s Day of 2022, I want to talk about love for the whole human race.
Because I have felt it in abundance lately, and if we’re going to celebrate a day of love, might we not only work on our love for those close to us, those who are easy to love, but also love for those who aren’t?
The most powerful love is love that we work on.
Oh, that happens in a marriage for sure. It happens in parenting. We work. Therefore we love even more than we thought possible, perhaps because sometimes that love is hard-fought.
So what about the neighbor who is driving us crazy or the business partner who has wronged us? What about the person we feel judged by or the stranger who may need a boost?
I was so overcome with the Richard Rohr meditations last week that I couldn’t help but tear up as I read some of them to Dave:
“Put simply, we are in a perilous time, and the answer to the question ‘Who are we to be?’ will have implications for generations to come.
“We have a choice to make. We can answer this question with diminished imagination, by closing ranks with our tribe and hiding from our human responsibility to heal the world. Or we can answer the question of who we are to be another way: We can answer it in the spirit of ubuntu. The concept comes from the Zulu phrase Umuntu ngumuntu ngabantu, which literally means that a person is a person through other people. Another translation is, ‘I am who I am because we are who we are.’ . . . With this in mind, who I will be is deeply related to who you are. In other words, we are each impacted by the circumstances that impact those around us. What hurts you hurts me. What heals you heals me. What causes you joy causes me to rejoice, and what makes you sad also causes me to weep.”
“My favorite Christian mystic, Julian of Norwich, used the Old English term ‘oneing’ to describe what happens between God and the soul. As Julian put it, ‘By myself I am nothing at all; but in general I am, I hope, in the oneing of love . . . for it is in this oneing that the life of all people consists.’ She also wrote, ‘The charity of God creates in us such a oneing that when it is truly seen, no person can separate themselves from another’ and ‘In the sight of God, all humans are oned, and one person is all people.'”
Isn’t that just so beautiful? (You can find that whole meditation HERE.)
“God clearly loves diversity. All we need to do is look at the animal world, or the world under the sea, [I loved this part especially since Dave and I had just spent some good hours under the sea…that diversity is MAGICAL!] or each human being: who of us looks exactly alike? We are always different. Is there any evidence to show where, in all creation, that God prefers uniformity? But we consistently confuse uniformity with spiritual unity. of us don’t know how to be both diverse and united. We want to make everybody the same. And the church has become more and more and exclusionary institution, instead of a great banquet feast to which Jesus constantly invites sinners and outcasts.”
“This Divine pattern is, of course, most beautifully revealed in ‘all the array [pleroma, or fullness] of creation’ (Genesis 2:1). God is forever ‘making room’ and ‘infilling’; this is the Way of the Flow.”
That specific meditation is HERE.
Oh I could go on and on about those, but I’ll just say that after all those thoughts were running through my heart I saw this at the San Fransisco airport:
Excuse those reflections in the photo, but I actually kind of like it because if you look close, you can see my shadow in with all those interconnected people as well.
And with all those Richard Rohr ‘love for humanity’ thoughts running through my heart, that painting spoke to me so beautifully.
We are all interrelated.
We all come with our own stories that all affect each other in different ways. The sad, the triumphant, the hurt, the justified, the kind, the brave, all those emotions creating strings of affect on those around us.
I so believe that what we send out into the world comes right back to us.
As we celebrate this Valentine’s Day, let’s let those things that we send out be LOVE!