Parenting a child with special needs is a journey filled with both heart-wrenching challenges and beautiful discoveries.
It is also a journey that can make parents feel lost and alone. For us, it has been encouraging to hear the parenting stories of others in the same (yet so different) special needs boat. The hard and hopeless along with the triumphs.
Below you’ll find different parts of our journey—from early diagnosis to independence and everything in between.

We have been on a rollercoaster of emotions as we have raised our daughter Lucy. We’ve had moments filled with uncertainty, moments of deep sorrow, and moments so full of beauty and growth that they almost take my breath away. From the early days of trying to understand our daughter’s diagnosis and what she needed, to the teenage years filled with big milestones like friendships, independence, and even first dates, this journey has been anything but simple.
But it has been meaningful.
I’ve gathered pieces of that journey here—not because I have it all figured out, but because I know how powerful it is to feel less alone. Whether you are just beginning this road or have been walking it for years, I hope these experiences offer encouragement, perspective, and a reminder that there is so much beauty woven into the hard.
Understanding the Special Needs Parenting Journey
There is something sacred (and often overwhelming) about realizing your child’s path may look different than you expected. These posts share some of the early emotions, questions, and perspective shifts that came for us along with that realization.
- Lucy’s Diagnosis with BBS
- Doctors & Experts
- Lucy’s Extra Toe and it’s Removal
- We are our Children’s Best Advocates
Daily Life & Support Systems
Day-to-day life with special needs is filled with both small victories and unexpected challenges. These are the real, unfiltered moments that shape both parent and child.
- A Day at the Children’s Hospital
- A Mighty Miracle Found in a Team of Helpers
- Finding Villages for Our Children
- Managing School with Special Needs
Creating Awareness Brings Power for Children with Special Needs
I learned long ago that the one of the best things we can do in dealing with Lucy’s special needs is creating awareness. Not only do we as her parents need to do our homework, but we need to inform others. I realized this poignantly in Lucy’s third grade class when a fellow student asked me earnestly to explain why Lucy’s eyes shake.
- Explaining special needs to 4th graders
- Teaching 5th graders about disabilities and inclusion
- Helping 6th grade classmates understand visual impairment
- How to Get Involved with BBS Global Awareness Day
Our Medical Journey, Research, and Hope for the Future
Navigating a rare genetic condition like Bardet-Biedl Syndrome has required us to become students of medicine, advocates for research, and believers in hope. From early diagnosis to clinical trials and fundraising efforts, we’ve worked alongside doctors and researchers striving to improve life for those affected.
- A Clinical Trial for Vision Research – working with doctors in Iowa to help find cures
- A Clinical Trial for Lucy – working with a new medicine to combat obesity
- A BBS Family Conference – gathering with our community to find companionship and answers
- The Turkey Trot – one big way we have raised money for research
- The Clinical Registry
Growth, Independence & Teenage Years
The teenage years bring a whole new layer of complexity—friendships, confidence, independence, and finding a place in the world.
Parenting children with disabilities often means learning to embrace a different timeline for growth and milestones.
Watching this unfold has been both beautiful and stretching in ways I didn’t anticipate.
- Lucy’s First Date and Navigating Something New
- When Lucy Tried Something Outside Her Comfort Zone
- Pioneering a New School Year – Faith in the Unknown
- Helping a Young Adult with Special Needs Build Independence Through Work
- Never Underestimate the Power of Informing
Milestones in Special Needs Parenting and Letting Go
Letting our children step into the world—especially when it feels uncertain—is one of the hardest and most important parts of parenting.
These moments mark growth not just for them, but for us too. Oh it is so difficult to do: watch our children do things that stretch them to the point of pain. But that is where the growth actually comes.
- Lucy’s First Low-Vision Summer Camp
- Lucy Takes On and Excellent College Prep Program for the Blind
- College Prep for Lucy and the Angels Who Showed Up
- The Beginning of College for Lucy
Faith and Trust in God in Special Needs Parenting
So much of this journey has led me back to faith—learning to trust that God is aware, that He is in the details, and that He is guiding both me and my child.
- How I Believe God is In the Details – Look for the Miracles
- A Shift of Perspective
- Holiness in Motherhood
This journey is not linear. There are steps forward and steps back, moments of clarity and moments of confusion. But through it all, I am learning that growth doesn’t require perfection—only willingness.
And that sometimes the most beautiful progress happens quietly, in ways we don’t fully recognize until we look back.
If you are walking this road too, I see you. And I’m so glad we’re not doing it alone.
