I’m taking a break from posting glowing pictures of the end of school to talk about perceptions vs. reality for a minute. I’m trying so hard to catch up with life that I’m speeding posting about the highlight moments. And when I do that it’s so easy to skim over the not-so-awesome parts and show off the grand and the beautiful since that’s what I have pictures of.
I wrote a post a while back about writing talents on fingers (I know, sounds weird, much better explanation HERE). I love to do that even [especially] in the midst of the tough stuff, because it makes those kids of mine glow. I love that my parents did that for me. Looking at the bright side is just kind of what I do.
Which is why I love Dave who gives me a dose of reality. He’s the one I mentioned (after that “fingers” post, in a new one HERE) who wants to come in behind me and write the things our kids need to WORK on on each of their toes:) Ha!
There needs to be a balance, right?
Sometimes I think he should write some of the blog posts here. Because I know that despite the fact that I do try to “keep it real,” sometimes I honestly do see only rainbows and butterflies. And Dave reminds me that there are moths and spiders and wasps in the mix too. Oh sure, he sees the good as well, but he helps keep me grounded and I’m grateful.
Not everyone can have a medal.
So, despite the glowing things I often post here and the fact that I like to take pictures of pretty things, I hope readers realize that life is real, and there are struggles right along with the beauty I may or may not be sharing.
I loved this slide they showed at this social media awareness night I went to a couple weeks ago:
I’m mentioning this (again…I try to mention it often because that iceberg is real), because I’ve been thinking a lot lately though about perceptions.
Mostly social media ones since I’ve had that on my mind a LOT lately.
I worry because I’m raising girls growing up in this land of often “fake” reality. It is human nature to put the “good” things out there. But because of that, these kids are bombarded with perfection in every direction. Friends and role models alike are posting everything from the perfect clothes to the perfect bodies to the perfect friends, and I think that’s great, to a certain extent. We want to celebrate the good, right? But sometimes when we see the good, we think it just happened like that. And sure, sometimes it does. But in general, when something good happens, there’s a lot of heartache and work and blood and sweat and tears that goes into it (just like it shows under that iceberg pic. up there above).
So, what I’m trying to say is that in my “rainbows and butterflies” mind we do have some things figured out over here, and I love to share them just as I love others to share what they’ve figured out.
There’s power in that. But I know there’s also power in vulnerability. (Have you listened to Brene Brown’s TED talk on that? It’s so good…and it is HERE
So for today I just thought I’d leave with this special note Lucy “awarded” me on Mother’s Day.
That girl says it like it is and it’s the perfect, light-hearted example of what I’m trying to get at.
I’m glad I’m so good at being late and ignoring 🙂
Oh man I love her. At least she summed it up by proclaiming that I SHOW that love…even if I sure mess up along the way.
I think that right there is the perfect example of her “writing” on my fingers as well as my toes 🙂