I wrote this on Instagram but felt like maybe there were young moms here who needed to hear it as well.
I’m not sure how many people follow both accounts, would love to know if you want to share! (Trying to revamp some things around here and wanting to know who is coming from where and what more you’d like to see her.)
But I digress, today I just want to send out a little encouragement for young mothers in the trenches:
I remember those days as a young mama that I thought would never end.
It wasn’t just the crying and tantrums, it was the fighting and sassiness and things like finding heaps of Tide detergent dumped in the dryer🤪.
And messes everywhere.
I remember one time when my mom came to visit. We lived in Washington DC and I had two toddlers clinging to my legs and a baby on my hip (and I’m sure I was covered in spit-up too because that baby had reflux like nobody’s business).
I was surely at my wits end, wondering how I could ever manage to tame my small circus.
I will always remember my mom’s wise words: toddlers don’t have self-control. They aren’t born with it. That stuff takes a while developmentally. And she assured me they would grow into obedience and submission some day HA! (She didn’t really say the submission part😉)
For some reason that thought had transformative power for me. I could suddenly have a little more compassion and patience for the mischief and chaos swirling around me. Those children of mine weren’t trying to be naughty, they were just trying to figure out life. (As was I, obviously!)
And guess what? My mother was right! Those kids of mine did eventually learn to want to behave. Sure, there were all kinds of ups and downs and bumps and bruises along the way, and in many ways we’re still “in the trenches” (albeit kind of different ones now).
But I’ll never forget those wise words my mother shared with me all those years ago.
Patience in the process as that prefrontal cortex continues to develop.
(My sisters and I talk about this and all kinds of other things to help kids WANT to behave in the podcast last week if anyone wants to take a listen!)
So I’m here to cheer on you young mothers out there trying to tame your own circuses.
It may take a little, so keep practicing patience, but you’ve got this!
Those kids do too.
And, if you ever need a little pick-me-up after a long day of trying to wrestle kids, be sure to go watch them as they sleep before you turn in yourself.
There’s something transformative about that, too❤️