The girls and I pulled out our “dream books” during one of the first weeks of January. Well, to be honest, they pulled theirs out, as instructed by their mother, and I took each of them on an individual date to update those things.
But as I pushed them to decide the things they wanted to do this year I realized I was doing this all backwards. I hadn’t done my own dream book yet. Sometimes I am not so hot at setting the example…I really need to get better at that.
So I got mine out (luckily I had just found it after it had been lost for a while), and laughed reading through the old pages.
(I’m glad I was able to fill in that “bubble” to “always brush my teeth” for crying out loud!…And oh, the ice skating! I sure wanted that for a while! I wonder if I really “changed myself into a calm person”…hmmm, still need to work on that one, and I’m pretty positive I never earned a thousand dollars at that age, yikes I liked to dream big!)
But I’m so glad I started writing my own story in that book all those years ago.
I love that our family culture had a “story” as well:
Sure, lots of it changed and morphed into new and improved ideas over the years, but it was the beginning of a story.
One that I believe has become quite beautiful.
All those lifetime goals, incremental yearly goals that have started to gather dust, the pages starting to yellow. But so many things I wrote in that flimsy three-ring binder as a teenager, stary-eyed about what was coming up in my life, have come true. Is it because I wrote them? Is it because I thought them through? Did they just happen? I don’t know. But I like to think that when we take time to think and ponder what we want, we have such a better chance to make it happen.
The point of the dream books is really to write our own stories.
There is power in putting something on paper.
Made me ponder more deeply on what I am “writing” in my own life these days.
I put some good thought into the story I want to unfold here in the year 2021…and the goals and systems I’m using to hopefully make at least the most important parts come true.
Love this quote from Atomic Habits: “The purpose of setting goals is to win the game. The purpose of building systems is to continue playing the game. True long term thinking is goal-less thinking. It is not about any single accomplishment, it is about the cycle of endless refinement and continuous improvement. Ultimately it is your commitment to the process that will determine your progress.”
Brian McLaren wrote: “our whole planet now needs more than ever a good story to live in and to live by. There are a number of stories competing for the hearts and imaginations of humanity as we emerge together into this new century and millennium…the story we believe and live in today has a lot to do with the world we create for our children, our grandchildren, and our descendants one hundred thousand years from now.”
I hope we can write some good stories as we maneuver through these days that have shifted so much in the last year! Because each of our stories are interlaced with so many others.