I don’t think I’m alone in falling into the “comparison trap.”
It is true what they say: “comparison is the thief of joy.” I agree with that. Comparison has the power to paralyze us and take the wind out of our sails. How can we ever measure up? We see all the “wins” and achievements of those around us and compare them to our failures and loses. All the things we are doing “wrong.”
But can comparison also be a positive tool for change? I think part of the reason I was so taken aback that night after I read about all the good things my sister’s kids are doing was because my kids really have relaxed on so many things lately and so have I. Don’t get me wrong, my kids are pretty awesome in so many ways. They do so many things well, sometimes to the point it makes my heart overflow watching them. But boy, there are always so many ways to grow and so much room for work and improvement. That comparison helped me realize some things that needed to change around here and helped whip us into gear…at least for a little while. (Thank you Saren!)
So maybe comparison is also “fuel for work and improvement” in a way?
I don’t really have an exact “point” in this post. Just some meandering and vulnerable thoughts to throw out there into the big wide world that is filled with so much comparison, big dreams, failed attempts, joyful victories, and trying to figure how they all fit together in the journey.