…that’s what plan it feels like we’re on with getting these two married.
I appreciate all the well wishes from readers here as well as from so many family and friends checking on us, sending love and concern for “what now?”
The piles of beautiful invitations Elle lugged home from Hawaii to send out are currently gathering dust in a corner, but although plans keep changing, at some point we’ll figure out the best way to send them out!
The first plan, of course, was to get married in the Laie Temple on April 21st.
Just look at that beautiful spot! It is right by the BYU-Hawaii campus and Elle and Carson feel like that’s “their” temple so we were planning a big party there.
And by the time COVID-19 reared it’s ugly head we were just starting to get a handle on it all. Finally. (It’s not easy to plan a wedding in all that tropical wonder from the desert), but things were finally starting to fall into place, venue booked, flights purchased, all that jazz. Elle was coming home for her bridal shower and wedding dress fitting in the middle of March, and we were all so excited.
But as we all know, the world has changed dramatically since then. When our first plans fell through, and the world started closing in, we figured out a new plan. And that has happened over and over again.
First to go was the Hawaii deal. They basically closed down the island (we were lucky to get Carson here before they locked down a bunch). All temples had limited availability, and within a few days they just closed down the Hawaii temple all together.
So Elle and Carson thought maybe they’d wait to get sealed when they could have everyone there (they were so excited to have everyone in that sacred place).
But then the plan morphed to just getting sealed in the temple with a tiny group, trying to chose which siblings to invite, and THAT is no easy feat I’ll tell you that!
Elle was all set to go to the temple for the first time in preparation for her wedding last Friday, but within two hours of making that appointment Grace literally gasped when she looked at her phone and found this:
Which, of course, called for another new plan.
I have to admit I am so proud of the way these guys are rolling with the punches. We sat down that night and talked through all kinds of options, those two still with big smiles across their faces. They are in love, and it will all work out.
This is an adventure, I’ll sure give it that!
It’s a pretty beautiful thing that there still are options though. So grateful that they can get married civilly and get sealed in the temple when the world finds it’s axis again. It is so strange to have the temple unavailable. A place where they both have planned to get married for their whole lives. Such beautiful sealing covenants they will be waiting for. But we are looking at the bright side, because this will sure be a grand story that is unfolding. We plan to have a big party in Hawaii when the temple is open again and they can plan their sealing.
But for now, they’ve gone from deciding to just wait for their original wedding date for their civil wedding to moving it way up, to going back again, and it changes day to day as more things get closed down and we get more and more worried about the state of the world and we all want to figure out the right answer that will keep everyone safe yet still let these two get married!
It’s not just the wedding date, but it’s what to do after thats that makes it tricky. A traditional honeymoon of course, isn’t an option, and since a few days after Carson arrived this came out in the news:
…it is up in the air when they can really get back to Hawaii even when they do get married. Not sure if their housing will still be available even if the self-quarantine order is still in place.
Carson brought a little carry-on not really knowing all that would be changing, so it’s crazy but they are rolling with it all pretty beautifully I must say. Here they are with a shower gift someone still dropped off at the back door after we cancelled the bridal shower:
…still glowing and happy. I love them.
How often do you get your future son-in-law to live with you for a few weeks before he marries your daughter? I have to say it’s pretty awesome to have him around. He’s the first one to jump up and help and is so easy-going with a house full of girls and it’s fun to see how solid and in love these two are. We have been in good touch with his family, wishing they could be here too!
The other night the four of us went on a little “date” to watch the sunset one night and sat outside talking until late all about life and marriage, soaking up the fact that we get them here right now:
And this is a little silly, but I thought it was pretty a good reminder forever about what happened the month in 2020 when they were supposed to be bursting out of that temple in Hawaii as a married couple:
We are in uncertain times for sure. Darkness looming all around. Which makes it pretty grand to have the light shining from these two.
Some day soon they will figure out all these details and it will be a beautiful union. Love them forever.
If you want to keep in touch, you are welcome to keep up with plans through their wedding website HERE. Thanks for the love that blog readers have always sent on over for Elle.